Chris Colfer Empathized for Kit Connor; Said Had Similar Experience 15 Years Ago

Sunday November 20, 2022

Chris Colfer
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BuzzFeed reports that out actor Chris Colfer wanted to reach out to "Heartstopper's" Kit Connor after the young actor felt forced to come out as bisexual recently. "That absolutely broke my heart because essentially the same thing happened to me but 15 years ago. We were the same age," Chris said.


"I really wanted to tweet something in support of him, but I didn't want to be the old guy trying to get attention, trying to take someone's trauma and be like, 'Oh, I remember when this happened to me,' " he explained on "And That's What You REALLY Missed."

"People were furious that it happened to [Kit] — I think that's proof of how far the community had come. When it happened to me it was very much 'I deserved it.' It was crickets. It was obvious, so therefore I had no reason to be upset about it."

Colfer was addressing his experiences with playing gay character Kurt Hummel on "Glee" in 2009. Despite the role being tailored to him, he was not yet public about his sexuality. On the podcast, Colfer was asked by his former "Glee" co-star Jenna Ushkowitz what it was like playing a gay character when he hadn't come out himself.

Colfer appeared on "Glee" until 2015. While appearing on the show, he wrote, starred in, produced, and novelized his first film, "Struck by Lightning," which debuted at the 2012 Tribeca Film Festival. He also wrote The New York Times bestselling "The Land of Stories" series of YA books, starting with "The Land of Stories: The Wishing Spell." As of September 2021, he has published eighteen books. He has also continued his acting career.

On the podcast, he explained that it was dangerous to be out in his hometown of Clovis, California as a teen. "Kids would get beat up. On one occasion someone got stabbed on their way to school. Being out and proud was not an option."

When he first heard that his character had been tailored to his personality, he was thrilled. But upon getting the script, "I realized it was the gay character, and I was terrified," he continued, recalling that one family member even told him, "You can't play a gay character, that would ruin your life."

But Colfer recalled having experienced a bad audition run, so he took the role. "I just wanted to get out and be a part of the industry so badly, I knew there was no option," he said. "I also knew that it would probably force me to answer and ask questions about myself that I wasn't quite ready to do, and I'm actually quite grateful for it in a way because it kind of pushed me into a path of honesty for myself."

He added that he felt the creation of Kurt was a "judgment." He explained: "They just assumed. And they were right! I was much more effeminate back then... I was called a faggot every single day in high school. Every single day. I couldn't hide it, I just wasn't ready to have that conversation with myself or anyone I knew yet."

Colfer continued: ""At the time, I wasn't ashamed of it at all. I very much knew. I just wanted to be on a boat before I called myself a sailor," he added. "Even during 'Glee,' I would get called a faggot at auditions... When I would tell people those stories they would say, 'What do you expect? You're an openly gay actor in Hollywood.' "

He said that the episode on which he came out to his dad was a "really lonely experience," adding, "there really wasn't much support for young gay people back then."

Hear the interview at this link.