Watch: Gay and Black Servers Refuse to Wait on Confederate Group: 'This Is a Set-up'

Saturday November 26, 2022

A screenshot of a TikTok posted by user Connor
A screenshot of a TikTok posted by user Connor   (Source:TikTok)

If you were a Black or gay waitperson, would you serve a group called the Sons of Confederate Vets?

That was the dilemma that gay TikTok user Connor (@connorgee2022) and his Black, female co-worker faced with members of the group met at the Texas Music City Grill and Smokehouse in Tyler, Texas and they were told by management to serve them.

"In a video with over 1.1 million views, TikTok user Connor (@connorgee2022) shares his reaction to the group. He later shared the whole story in a follow-up and said he no longer works at the restaurant," reports The Daily Dot.

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"We were both like, 'No. We're not taking this party. That's a setup. That is a setup,'" Connor recounts. "We're going to get treated shitty, and then get no-tipped, and possibly hate-crimed."

As a result, Connor and his co-worker asked to not serve the party. The restaurant obliged.

"They are regulars there. They come once a month... and that fucking place eats them up," Connor continues. "They love them."

Connor reiterated this in an Instagram message exchange with Daily Dot. He said the Sons of Confederate Veterans frequented the restaurant, but he "never got to see what they would talk about."

He said a second group that he didn't know the name of "would discuss how they were wanting Texas to secede from the US."

"Some of the things that they talked about [included] banning gay marriage," he added.

"I would talk to the owners, and they actually agreed with the groups and invited them in with open arms," Connor stated.

Connor said he kept the job despite his disapproval of the restaurant's patrons because he needed the money. But he said after repeated incidents, including a situation in which one of his co-workers called him "the F slur," he decided to quit.

On their website, the Sons of Confederate Vets, describe themselves this way: "The citizen-soldiers who fought for the Confederacy personified the best qualities of America. The preservation of liberty and freedom was the motivating factor in the South's decision to fight the Second American Revolution. The tenacity with which Confederate soldiers fought underscored their belief in the rights guaranteed by the Constitution. These attributes are the underpinning of our democratic society and represent the foundation on which this nation was built.

"Today, the Sons of Confederate Veterans is preserving the history and legacy of these heroes so that future generations can understand the motives that animated the Southern Cause."

They uploaded a 5-minute video on their website which offers the group's rationale to carry on the values fought by soldiers during the Civil War, calling themselves their direct heir. They are dedicated to a true history of the 1861 to 1865 period is preserved. Membership is restricted to all male descendents of any veteran who served honorably in the Confederate Armed Forces.

A Sons of Confederate Vets members instructs a boy about the group.
A Sons of Confederate Vets members instructs a boy about the group.  (Source: YouTube)

The video features a heavy-set, thirty-something white man visiting Confederate memorials and gravesides who says it is his "duty to join." He also says that the Confederate soldiers personified the best qualities of America, meaning their dedication to family and duty, but ignores any mention of the political idealogies that guided the South, including slavery and racism.

At one point he takes a young white boy under his arm to offer him an introduction to the group. And in what can Later in the video, a white Jewish rabbi is seen overseeing an event. In the narration, the heavy-set, white man says that "today the sons of confederate veterans is preserving the history and legacy of these heroes so future generations can understand the motives that gave life to the southern cause. We need to draw the line in the sand right now."